Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World – Joshua Harris, author of the runaway bestseller I Kissed Dating Goodbye,calls a generation bombarded with images of sexual sin back to the freedom and joy of holiness. This “PG-rated” book – straightforward without being graphic – speaks to those entrenched in lust or just flirting with temptation. Honestly sharing his own struggles, Harris exposes lust’s tactics and helps readers create a personal plan for fighting back. Men and women will find hope in God’s grace and learn the secrets to lasting change.
Neither sex nor sexuality is our enemy. We need to rescue our sexuality from lust so we can experience it as God intended.
Bestselling author Joshua Harris shows you how lust deceives you. Specific and honest without being graphic, this book–for both men and women–will guide you in creating a custom plan for fighting lust and celebrating purity.
Gracepoint Church Library 
This book takes a very straightforward and honest approach in dealing with sexual sin. I especially appreciated Harris’s frankness in sharing his own personal struggles with lust.
It seems that many non-Christians (and even some Christians) think that Christians view sexual desires and actions as inherently sinful, but this book rejects this idea (so does the Bible btw). Rather, this book explains that God wants us to experience the gift of intimacy in the context of marriage and focuses on dealing with the problem of lust (a perversion of God’s intentions.)
Perhaps the most valuable aspect of this book is that it offers concrete and practical advice for striving towards sanctification.
I would definitely recommend this book to anyone, even those who don’t struggle with sexual sin. It was very easy to read and very impactful.
I just offer one caution/warning (especially to women reading this book), the author is a man, so his experiences with this kind of sin are inherently different than those of women. For example, I disagreed with the author’s generalized claims that men’s lust is typically expressed through physical desires while those of women are expressed through emotional desires. So just be careful reading chapter 5. I think that the author realizes that he can’t really understand a woman’s experience so he recommends a book for specifically for women called “Feminine Appeal” by Carolyn Mahaney.
LikeLike